tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post8859397338192596014..comments2023-08-19T01:00:21.479-07:00Comments on Love. Learning. Liberty.: What NOT To Do When Your Home Schooled Teen Rocks the Boatshadowspringhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172112981244682382noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post-10527229987221467192013-07-09T12:21:27.370-07:002013-07-09T12:21:27.370-07:00Boy, point number 5 is true. It is true for teens ...Boy, point number 5 is true. It is true for teens - but also for young (or middle aged) adult children too. Diary of an Autodidacthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11849157548643091986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post-34172540714198308772013-05-14T15:51:25.503-07:002013-05-14T15:51:25.503-07:00it's very likely if you knew they were a homes...it's very likely if you knew they were a homeschooling family. sometimes my dad did just need an extra hand, and someone was ahead in school or something and it wasn't a punishment or guarding thing... i'm not sure that anyone could have told the difference though. :/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post-82750585761456348232013-05-10T12:37:08.525-07:002013-05-10T12:37:08.525-07:00Now this creeps me out, as I had a local home scho...Now this creeps me out, as I had a local home school family owned carpet cleaning company come out, and their too young (late elementary?) son came with the father. I wonder if that was his punishment? I tried to be friendly with the kid, but he was very stand-offish. Eventually his mom unfriended me on facebook anyways. I think it was when I took a stand against the local father who shot his teen's laptop and put the video on YouTube. I live in a very crazy place. shadowspringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15172112981244682382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post-13972706766751184782013-05-10T12:34:36.363-07:002013-05-10T12:34:36.363-07:00No, I wrote this in response to a young home schoo...No, I wrote this in response to a young home school teen I know personally in the area. But that teen's parents were proposing to completely isolate the teen, as the near-total isolation he/she already experienced still allowed him/her time to think new thoughts. =(<br /><br />Boo to that teen's parents!shadowspringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15172112981244682382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post-49312814249691809392013-05-07T12:29:59.877-07:002013-05-07T12:29:59.877-07:00the "shadowing" in my family consisted o...the "shadowing" in my family consisted of one of the kids, whoever was the issue at the time, going with my dad to work. he was a carpenter/handyman, so we would just have to tag along and help him carry tools, or hold things, or whatever miscellaneous odds and ends he needed. often school still had to be done even if you were on the jobsite, so we'd sit in the workvan and work on school with our books. the point was to take stress off my mom at home and to have someone always "guarding" whoever was misbehaving.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post-71556352410233859572013-05-07T12:23:46.541-07:002013-05-07T12:23:46.541-07:00i don't know if this is in reference to the re...i don't know if this is in reference to the recent abduction victims that were just found, but i just wrote this post on my private facebook when i realized that my situation was quite similar to theirs:<br /><br />"i wonder if my parents realize that towards the end of my time with them i was basically being held captive. i was not allowed on the computer at all. i was not allowed to drive the family vehicle anywhere. i had a joint back account with my dad that had $60 in it. my phone calls were closely monitored... and i wasn't allowed to leave or move out. i was 23 years old.<br /><br />i'm thinking through this as i read about these girls who were just rescued after 10 years of captivity. i was told that if i left my family my dad would find me wherever i was and make me come back to the family with him. it's hard and quite shocking to realize that in some small ways i really can compare my situation to these girls who are making national news headlines right now.<br /><br />when i finally left my family, i snuck out at night, not telling anyone, and walking to the end of the driveway where someone met me in a vehicle. they took me a couple's house who i had only quite recently met. they let me stay in their basement bedroom for a week until another friend picked me up from there and drove me about an hour towards NJ. there my cousins picked me up and took me to their house. i lived with them for about 2 months before my dad found out and threatened my cousin's kids (2 under the age of 10 at the time) with abandonment, telling my cousin that he shouldn't leave the kids in my care because when he (my dad) came to get me he would just leave the kids wherever he found them.<br /><br />so i moved again, to other friends' home, and literally no one knew i was living there for about 3 months. i would drive the opposite direction when leaving my grandparents' house so they didn't know where i was headed; i would get in my car when other people came over and pretend to leave so they didn't know i lived there, etc... finally the threat of my dad dragging me away lessened and i told my grandparents, and my mom about a year later."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post-56095709294461358482013-05-06T16:42:43.927-07:002013-05-06T16:42:43.927-07:00Yep, Sandra, pretty much the same concept. Just wi...Yep, Sandra, pretty much the same concept. Just with a teen instead of a toddler. =(shadowspringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15172112981244682382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post-32663588047927579892013-05-06T10:22:42.842-07:002013-05-06T10:22:42.842-07:00::applause::::applause::Michael Mockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06233321050691782148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1802896743878321184.post-91220668022045319102013-05-05T20:11:38.687-07:002013-05-05T20:11:38.687-07:00*waves excitedly back* hi! how are you? missed you...*waves excitedly back* hi! how are you? missed you!!<br /><br />What the heck is shadowing? Is it similar to tomato-staking a toddler (another reprehensible parenting tactic I've heard about on Christian mommy sites)?<br /><br />I see so many parents do such stupid things--all religious issues aside--and I've indulged in several stupidities myself. But I always come back around to my primary purpose: fostering autonomy and critical thinking so that my child can move in the world with confidence and compassion. I watch the Stupid Parent Tricks and wonder if people are actually trying to parent or just trying to cling to power and control?<br /><br />Admittedly, all the parenting gurus, religious or otherwise, have been loudly preaching ever more controlling and belittling behaviors of parents in the name of child safety or "getting ahead". But, really, people? Have we lost all perspective, that we should implement the idiocy de jour without checking it against our common sense? Or against observing our children to notice whether they thrive on love and trust or control and berating?Sandra Keehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16979912092987681396noreply@blogger.com